information for parents

Bully Awareness in neisd - types of bullying

When discussing bullying, it is very important for parents, students and teachers to understand what bullying is not. In many instances a single act may be insensitive or mean behavior but is not considered bullying.

Some people think that bullying is any aggressive behavior or insensitive remark. Although this behavior is unacceptable and needs to be addressed, it is important to make the distinction from bullying.

It is important to remember anything that happens once is NOT an act of bullying. As a parent, it is important that you pay attention to what your kids are telling you and find out if things are happening more than once.

These signs may aslo indicate other issues going on with children, which is why it is important to maintain very open communication with your child, or make sure your child has someone he or she feels comfortable with to discuss what may be occurring. While schools try to do all they can to prevent and address bullying, school personnel cannot be everywhere at once, and no one knows your child better than you.

The following give examples of what is bullying and what is not bullying.

Verbal Bullying - when one uses words to gain power over another
WHAT IS BULLYING WHAT IS NOT BULLYING

Repetitive:

• Insults
• Racist remarks
• Threats or intimidation
• Taunting
• Teasing
• Name-calling

• Arguments
• Expressing unpleasant thoughts or feelings about another person
• Telling a single joke about someone
• Being bossy
• Not liking someone
• Being excluded

 

Physical Bullying - when a victim is targeted repeatedly with intention to hurt, embarrass, or intimidate
WHAT IS BULLYING WHAT IS NOT BULLYING

Multiple Occurrences of:

• Hitting
• Pushing
• Tripping
• Slapping
• Spitting
• Stealing or destroying possessions or lunch money
• Sexual harassment

• Accidentally Bumping into someone
• Isolated acts of harassment, aggressive behavior, intimidation or meanness
• Single acts of the listed examples

 

Cyber-bullying - when one uses information and communication technologies (cell phones, computers, social media, websites) to conduct repetitive, deliberate, harmful and hostile behavior. [1]
WHAT IS BULLYING WHAT IS NOT BULLYING
• Spreading rumors about a person via social media
• Harassing emails & text messages
• Posting of pictures/videos with intent to embarrass


• Consensually and actively participating in arguments or discussions via the use of information and communication

• Isolated comments, jokes, or insults made through electronic means that if said in person would not constitute a pattern of conduct sufficient to constitute bullying

Cyberbullying.org – includes the first formal definition of cyberbullying by Bill Belsey. Retrieved on7/6/11

 

Social Bullying - when the repeated actions of a person or group are intended to hurt someone's feelings, reputation or relationships
WHAT IS BULLYING WHAT IS NOT BULLYING

MULTIPLE Occurrences of:

• Leaving someone out of an activity with the specific intent to humiliate or embarrass
• Telling others not to be friends with someone
• Spreading rumors about someone
• Embarrassing someone in public


• Equal and active engagement of all parties involved in threatening, belittling, or humiliating behaviors